Quotes by Martha Beck

Whoever said love is blind is dead wrong. Love is the only thing that lets us see each other with the remotest accuracy.
– Martha Beck
Every instance of heartbreak can teach us powerful lessons about creating the kind of love we really want.
– Martha Beck
The power to bring me out of solitude - or to push me back into it - had never belonged to another person. It was mine and only mine.
– Martha Beck
The really potent part of love is that it allows you to carry around beliefs about yourself that make you feel special, desirable, precious, innately good. Your lover couldn't have seen [these qualities] in you, even temporarily, if they weren't part of your essential being.
– Martha Beck
Any transition serious enough to alter your definition of self will require not just small adjustments in your way of living and thinking but a full-on metamorphosis.
– Martha Beck
You have the freedom to live and let live, to love and let love. Granting yourself that freedom is one of the healthiest, most constructive things you can do for yourself and the people who matter to you.
– Martha Beck
Whether you've seen angels floating around your bedroom or just found a ray of hope at a lonely moment, choosing to believe that something unseen is caring for you can be a life-shifting exercise.
– Martha Beck
We virtually never feel our age, but thinking that we should can lead to disaster.
– Martha Beck
The position that I take partly as a result of living in Asia is where you stop living according to your expectations and you become available to experience things as they are.
– Martha Beck
Standards of beauty are arbitrary. Body shame exists only to the extent that our physiques don't match our own beliefs about how we should look.
– Martha Beck
Sometimes a psychic tells you something and it feels wrong and others may be right on the money. It's your choice about whom to trust, and giving that trust is something we do ourselves.
– Martha Beck
Seek art from every time and place, in any form, to connect with those who really move you.
– Martha Beck
People are so afraid of authority figures and doctors are authority figures.
– Martha Beck
No one else can take risks for us, or face our losses on our behalf, or give us self-esteem. No one can spare us from life's slings and arrows, and when death comes, we meet it alone.
– Martha Beck
No matter how difficult and painful it may be, nothing sounds as good to the soul as the truth.
– Martha Beck
My point is that perceptual bias can affect nut jobs and scientists alike. If we hold too rigidly to what we think we know, we ignore or avoid evidence of anything that might change our mind.
– Martha Beck
My own nature hovers between neurotic and paranoid. I've developed the habit of mentally listing things that make me optimistic about the future. I do it every day.
– Martha Beck
In one century, we've added 28 years to our average life span - a change so rapid that our brains couldn't possibly have evolved to accommodate it.
– Martha Beck
Hopeful thinking can get you out of your fear zone and into your appreciation zone.
– Martha Beck
Good-looking individuals are treated better than homely ones in virtually every social situation, from dating to trial by jury.
– Martha Beck
Denial exists because human infants, though equipped with trust-o-meters, are built to trust, blindly and absolutely, any older person who wanders past.
– Martha Beck
Bracketing has turned all my experiences, remembered and present, into a gallery of miracles where I wander around dazzled by the beauty of events I cannot explain.
– Martha Beck
Anything you're trying to will is focused on the future it's always associated with some sort of anxiety that makes the present moment somewhat uncomfortable.
– Martha Beck
Anger elicits anger, fear elicits fear, no matter how well meaning we may be.
– Martha Beck
Although beauty may be in the eye of the beholder, the feeling of being beautiful exists solely in the mind of the beheld.
– Martha Beck
Allowing children to show their guilt, show their grief, show their anger, takes the sting out of the situation.
– Martha Beck
Absolutely lonely people have few personal interactions of any kind.
– Martha Beck